You'd have been 82 today, darlin'. These pictures of your wedding day, are how I will always remember you. Beautiful, kind, always trying to be happy, always trying to be the kindest person you could be. The picture of you and dad on the beach in Naples, when you were still happy together..
I miss you. I hope you're having fun, playing with Jethro, getting your butt pinched by Larry. Giggling and goopying. Enjoying your mom again, finally, after caring for her for so many years.
Say hi to Gams.
Your sweet face is burned into my heart. I'm so glad we were the best of friends.
We were very lucky, weren't we? I wish I'd known, just HOW lucky I was. Sure takes me a while, but I got there, Mom. I know you are laughing your butt off at the gardener I FINALLY became.
I can hear your voice in my head, if I listen really closely.
"Hope is the thing with feathers, that perches in the soul, and sings the tune, without the words, and never stops at all." Emily Dickinson.
Here's hoping, for you, my Mom.
22 comments:
What a beautiful tribute. So glad theat you and your mom had a good relationship to the end, She was clearly a beutiful lady with a wonderful spirit,a legacy that she has obviously passed on to you. She must smile at you with pride !
Love the pictures of your mom and company. Great snaps of an era gone by.
Tried to post earlier, but it is gone, so I'll say again how much I like the pictures of your place! Reminds me of my place, here, in Idaho. Same barren trees and ice and snow. :)
Happy birthday to your mom.
Beautiful post. It is so moving. I lost my darling grandmother a couple of years ago and this post reminds me of her.
Were is everyone congregating. I'm talking to CCC via email but that's about it. It would great if we could get together as a group again on some blog perhaps Trojan Mouse's blog. Gosh, I don't know.
If anyone has Mel's contact info please email me: bhm@sympatico.ca
BHM
Hey, I was just over at NCC's
Jeeeez.
I know what you mean.
Why not Mel's?
Or NCC's
Or BlueHerons?
Why not here?
TJM's gets the most rabid of the enablers, I've found. But I had a great Time learning about the ASB for example, and she always straight shoots it.
Whoever They Are HATE the idea of not breaking horses too young, the really ranty ones, like on the Wench. Since I'm against QH's traveling with their heads on the floor, I am not too popular to the mostly trolls that visit..
We need to synchronize our watches.
Too.
Oooh, BHM, I edited this out of my drug post.
March 7 is a Christilot Boylen Clinic!
At Oakcrest, Belinda Trussell's, place. 7pm til about 9 or 9:30.
I'm auditing, as of course, I am useless, I am horseless.
HAH!
If you're feeling well enough, wanna join me and some friends?
I know, it's shocking, but I do have like 3-5 real life friends?
I'd be MUCH more confident meeting you that way, of course, it wouldn't be as easy for you, but hey, my selfishness is part of my dubious charm:):):):)
I wouldn't be so shy, is what I'm trying to say.
These are OLD friends, really old. Heck, you may know them anyway.
Not that you're really old...
I mean, oh, crap.
Thanks for the kind words. I was SO lucky.
So Lucky.
Oh man, you were lucky. What a beautiful picture of your mum.
My parents stopped by today, and I'm a lousy daughter because I DREAD them. Hey, they did about every abusive thing a parent could do, which is why I went to work for the carnival at 15 and never looked back....(they swore they were only staying together for the kids so we all left home at 15 or 16)but I digress.
I think there's always a time to forgive, but sometimes it's hard to do.
You are beautiful like your mom. Cool.
wow, kestrel
Husband has a good friend with the same history.
Wow... tell me more...
I feel a book coming up..
Hey, kestrel, did ya SEE??
I posted about GoLightly in Real Life, as FernV said, finally.
You've missed a TON:):):)
and, No Hall Pass
FAIL!
Good to see you again, thanks for the e-mail list of insults, I've used one already...
GL,
I can't get into NCC's super sekret blog because a don't have a speshul pass. Could you arrange one for me?
This is an excellent blog. Well worth the reading.
http://glenshee.blogspot.com
How about we coordinate at Trexx's blog. Any thoughts?
BHM, see what I started on mugs?
The DIJ woman's statement, refuted by JME? on mugs..
You know, where, according to P. Karl, horses can't raise their heads, and bend their necks,at the same time? I asked it again..
"when philippe karl wrote about a horse not being capable of raising the head while flexing the neck to the side, he was referring to the two muscles running along either side of the neck that work together to raise the head (as in a horse hollowing his topline and bracing against the bit.) a horse may raise his head with the assistance of the nuchal ligament, but the neck muscles play a more important role, particularly when the horse is bracing or above the bit.
by flexing the horse in front of the wither (ie, not just at the poll, which can twist,) one of those muscles raising the head must disengage to allow the neck to flex laterally, and therefore the horse can no longer maintain a high head. he will relax those bracing muscles and lower the head and neck.
also, this exercise is done at the halt, not at speed, and the head is not brought round the the knee, but simply to the side - from the base of the neck - with the arm extended in a wide leading rein on the snaffle.
most of my horses are well-bred warmbloods, TB's etc, most with naturally high, round head and neck conformation, and this holds true for them, so i do not find it to be an issue of selective conformation, but ordinary equine mechanics.
however, my one disclaimer is that, with the george-morrisification of the h/j world, his absurd idea of bending and rein aids has become gospel: that the primary rein for bending and turning is the 'direct rein of opposition': using this rein for lateral flexions causes the horse's neck to back up and twist at the poll (the infamous 'only the corner of the eye' bend) and though incorrect, this can be done with the head raised. no one outside of this school would consider this correct lateral flexion, though it does happen."
Oh, well, dressage riders think George Morris is absurd, but they aren't listening either. I think it's all absurd, kinda. Really.
George is sure not known for being a BAD trainer anyway. I'm sure Beezie Madden tried to forget everything he ever taught her.
And to punish you alllll, mwhahahahahah.
Here's my comments that I deleted from mugs, again.
I must stop this..
"Posted, then deleted, because mugs says I'm crazy.
RollKur "breaks" their nuchal ligament, and gives a new meaning to the term rubber neck. Suppling the neck lengthwise is not RollKur.
Chin to the chest, chin to the stirrup/girth, held for toooo long, is RollKur. BRIEF interludes of suppling, are NOT.
Breaks their heart, their spirit, their balance.
Oh, wait, I must be so wrong. I have only watched the greats in H/J. I don't watch the less than greats. You learn the WRONG thing watching the not-so-greats..
Pretty sure Beezie knows how to ride. Pretty sure she's a horsewoman. Michael Matz, Ian Millar, Beth Underhill, Eric Lamaze. Watch the greats, ignore the rest.
RollKur gives a false sense of security to the Anky's of the world, witness the fact that she cannot stop her horse. She cannot halt him. The connection was broken, she broke it.
But hey, she won the silver medal, right H0fC?
Or was that gold?
Don't have to be so politically correct, when I disappear, eh?
Germany is arguing about it?
Fancy that.
The horses are bred to be unrideable without it? Please...
I know you didn't say that.It is the excuse used by the fearful.
I think the SHOW reining world deserves Anky. perfect fit,eh?
Maybe they'll slack off on those silly drug restrictions, too, in FEI, just for the poor unsound reiners.
Betcha Anky LOVES not having a head in front of her.
Anky must know much more than any of us here. She qualified, after all.
As in all disciplines, there are the quick fixers. This is no exception. I'm amazed that HofC was so honest with your post, and yet less honest for my questions, long since forgotten, deleted, ignored. Danes are the masters of diplomacy, after all.
The Bronze Rider at the 2008 Olympics was robbed. She did the best test.
Period.
Neither have I ever seen a top hunter/jumper rider use logging chains.
Go ahead, Point some fingers back at H/J, mugs. Yeah, we break 'em DOWN.
They don't jump so good, if you RollKur them. Break 'em down. See we go over JUMPS, horses need their necks for jumping.
I could give two shits for the "trainers" that some have seen. Name them, cowards. Top trainers, the ones still doing well on the same horses year after year, they're the ones with NO short-cuts.
NO drugs, for show. NONE.
I have practiced flexing a horse's neck from side to side, to help him straighten. Crookedness benefits from that type of exercise. The horse learns to move straighter.
I have never ever over-flexed his head to his chest.
WHY would you?
No reason,at all.
I've also re-trained rubber neckers, RollKurred. They are the hardest to fix. They are truly broken.
Depends on the barn you are at.
I have seen many jumpers warmed up with suppling exercises, that supple the neck lengthwise. They ALWAYS go back to straight forward.
Bah,don't go there, mugs. Pointing fingers at H/J will just make your world look even more silly.
Bad training is the same across all disciplines.
There is only one nuchal ligament.
Break it, and you're screwed.
I should say, the horse is screwed, rider is just screwed in the head.
oh, yeah.
Going to a Christilot Boyen Clinic again, auditing of course. She'll be discussing hands. I can hardly wait. It'll be interesting to watch and learn, which is what I try to do, wherever I go.
She decries RollKur for the monster that it is.
Sorry, for the human monsters that practice it.
I would far rather RollKur a horse though, and not beat it with logging chains.
Different strokes, I guess.
sorry.
For the record, mugs, my flashes of temper were NEVER directed at my horses. I got off before that ever happened. Bad tempers have no place on a horse, EVER.
People, AbsoBloodyLutely.
Wish I had a logging chain, right now, for Cleve Wells.
p.s.
LauraCrum?
Was THAT respectful enough for ya?
Hope Not.""
Here's my second comment, I'm such an idiot..
"HorseofCourse, one question and I will disappear into the ether again, to all of your mutual relief.
I took umbrage with a comment found on a blog that I had liked, a young capable woman riding/showing APHA WP. She inferred from Philippe Karl's book, THAT
"A Horse CanNOT Flex his neck to the side, and Bring it up".
Well, all the horses I've ever ridden, could.
Is it because the nuchal ligament is slowly being bred OUT of horses?
Just askin'. Shorter, starighter, more cow-like. Maybe they really can't.
Really.
I believe this smart young woman has only ever ridden horses with their heads BRED low.
She's tried asking questions here, and gotten the same attitude I've received, which is -don't ask. You can't understand. You show no respect.
(I respect horses)
I'd love to know your thoughts. I think this young woman is heading in the right direction, but without a firm understanding of what the horse is capable of, in his normal, non-weirdly conformed state, she may hinder her own knowledge base.
She believes, as I do, that there are more similarities, than differences, between great western, and great english riding.
GREAT, mind you.
zip, I'm gone."""
Boy, I'm a bitch.
Nothing new there..
And now, I will go back in my closet, under my rock, aGain...
Oh, crap, and BHM, staying in town after work is never a good thing for me. I can't drive well, after dark.
It's the closet lighting, and all.
Maybe??
In the summer??
I want that book, tho'.
p.s. NCCsays she issued you two invites, but no reply. You have to e-mail her,or something. That's how she sets you up?
GL,
Are you saying that mugs bashed you for an anti-Rollkur post and now she's doing a Rollkur post?
If mugs' site is full of idiots then maybe we can meet a Trexx's site?
I'm right in the middle of emailing everyone then my email goes down. You got'a love it.
GL,
Are you saying that mugs bashed you for an anti-Rollkur post and now she's doing a Rollkur post?
If mugs' site is full of idiots then maybe we can meet a Trexx's site?
I'm right in the middle of emailing everyone then my email goes down. You got'a love it.
bhm- check your email. The one you put up is different than the one I had previously.
Yeah, BHM, mugs just doesn't like me.
(whine, NOT)
She called that post crazy. Oh well, I guess, I AM.
I've sent your e-mail to NCC, She WANTS YOU.
If your e-mail is screwing up, that may well be the reason. She has to send you the super sekret link..
or something..
gotta eat
be well, girl.
GL- what a nice tribute to Mom. I thought that beach looked like Florida- glad to see SHE removed her shoes to enjoy-
It sounds like your Mom had a neat sense of humor, like yours.
And you know, you can love you Mom but it is better to enjoy her too.
bhm- look for email from blogger not me. No idea what the subject line says.
I seen! I am so proud of you! Oh, what fabulous rides...those 'make the hair on your arms stand up, there is proof of majick rides', when you are in the presence of great souls. Those memories never ever go away. I am sure when I am old and senile I will tell stories of my favorite rides long after I forget my name!
Proud of you for stirring up the bullshit. Damn, learning anatomy is so important. Oh yeah, but that just might mess up the fanatic's BELIEF system, mucking them up with facts. As far as the "horses don't really love you" theory espoused on Mugs, bullshit. SOME horses don't love you, but I have 3 in my pasture right now that will leave the herd to come sleep by my tent when I'm camping, and a black Arab mare that will fight for me. Literally. Now that would be a prey animal going against it's instincts. May not be love, but I'll take it. I'm learning so much from you! Actually, might even get brave and start writing my story. I've been chicken, but will follow your lead!
Yeah, I sure smelled some sweet bullshit coming off of mugs blog.
Notice how some knew what I meant.. Notice how quick I was labeled crazy.
Fascinating.
Horses necks are being bred away, wtf FOR??
Still unclear on that one, unless the Slaughter Industry suggested it. Makes them easier to fit into the cattle slaughter line.
Gawd I have an evil mind, BHM, boy, how did you know??
I am going to focus more, write more, comment less, elsewhere...
Thanks, k, I used one of your insults on TJM, too.
they will come in SO handy...
night all, have a great week!
6 more sleeps, FernV?
Oooh, take good care. Do NOT over do ANYTHING this week, FV. Stay under a rock, or in a closet or something.
It's safer....
looking forward to knowing someone who has had warm wet sand betwixt their toes...
What a week, it was..
Painfully Stupid, out.
(hah)
I will take many pics of my toes in the sand ,just for you. Eww that sounds a little wierd .you know what I mean I hope
K,
On the horses don’t really love you comment, I think that they get attached. After Trooper first started to bond with me he would leave his herd and sleep under my bedroom window. I could hear him out there stomping at flies no matter what time of night I woke up. When I got up in the morning his Shire nose could just reach the second story window. We would sniff at me and I would say good morning to the nose in my window. The nose would immediately follow me to the bathroom and wait patiently while I go ready. Next, the nose would follow me to the kitchen while I had breakfast and wait for me to finish. Once outside he’d follow me everywhere. He’d even leave his herd to stand beside me while I sat on the deck. He would stand patiently for hours in the hot sun standing beside me while not eating or drinking. Occasionally, he would wonder off to get something to eat or drink. He definitely showed that he had a stronger connection with me than his herd.
Another horse that I was part-boarding was a huge Belgian cross that looked like a heavy Warmblood. When I came to visit him in the evening he could hear my footsteps coming up the road. I would then hear the most pathetic whiny come out of the barn which sounded like some was killing him. It was funny he could tell my footsteps from everyone elses from a long distance away. Once I got in to the barn there would be this giant horse standing on his hind legs with his nose and front hooves hanging out over the top door of his double door stall whinnying for me to get him out of their so we could go play. He never behaved this way with anyone else.
I think it's part of the great divide. The Dark Side is pretty frickin' DARK.
The cowpoke world, doesn't WANT the horse to "love" him, cowboys want a working harse, and they "aren't capable" of love to the animal behaviour purists.
Lose, lose,
For the Horses.
Yeah, as if. Horses are highly emotional creatures, they have a very acute sense of safe.
That's love, to me.
Don't you love those you feel safe with?
I do.
The Animal behaviour Guys don't like to admit that animals have emotions, and they've been showing them, ALL along. We just don't "see" them. Or WANT to see them.
Temple Grandin does, I do, you do.
The simplest emotions are the most powerful.
Animals know this. People don't.
Not YOU people:):):):)
My Lightly had the BEST sense of humour...
To Horses, sheeple.
OMG, Absolutly BEAUTIFUL WOMAN!!! How blessed you must have been GL... Ugh... Movie Star...
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